Get in balance with your partner

Fit & Training door robin-den-besten

Don't we all know that one person that can eat E V E R Y T H I N G  without gaining weight? While you just look at some chocolate and already feel like you've gained weight? Yup. I have that one person in my life and like that isn't enough already... it's my boyfriend and we live together. He wants to gain weight and I want to lose some. Quite the challenge! In the past months we've finally found a healthy balance and we went from being each others irritation to motivation!


When we just met, I was insecure and felt like I needed to lose a lot of weight. But I wasn't overweight; I had a normal figure with curves, but insecurity took over my common sense. My boyfriend was too thin, and this was so problematic it held him back in his education and pursuing his dreams. Both unhappy and out of balance, things had to change for the both of us. And so we decided to take on our problems individually. 


I soon found a way in my fit lifestyle, but every time we were together and he ate a lot, I did the same. And when he was with me and I was eating healthy, he would get out of balance. We both had such a different diet that eating together was barely doable. There had to be another way instead of making two different dinners?


After a lot of irritation and failed attempts, I all of sudden realized it wasn't that difficult at all. For example, if I baked banana pancakes, I ate mine with low fat quark and he would eat his with Nutella and chocolate sprinkles. Minor detail, but it helped to eat together again. Soon we would apply it to everything: he would eat pasta and I would make zucchini noodles. I'd have a bowl of Greek yogurt and he has a bowl of full quark. Suddenly we had found the balance! 


I always make sure that he eats more than be but also of the right stuff and he lets me know when I'm making unhealthy decisions. Like digging in the freezer for some ice cream. We motivate each other to go to the gym and we regularly go together. We're not there yet, but we're on our way. Of course, there are days I'm not being healthy at all and finish a whole bag of chips, but when I do so, I do it with him. And at that moment, there is nothing else I'd like to do. 

Do you recognize this, Fit Girls? And how are you dealing with these kind of moments? Let me know about your tips! Would love to read them below.